Accept, Ignore, Reject
Aim of the Game: For three volunteers to hit a mark in a circle under different conditions
• To discuss feelings of acceptance, rejection and being ignored.
• To see how these feelings may affect performance.
• To explore how to deal with these feelings.
A plenary group and three volunteers
Three blackboard erasers, a circle (about 12cm diameter) drawn on the floor with chalk or on a piece of paper laid on the floor.
• Ask three volunteers from the group to step out of the room as you give the rest of the instructions.
• Tell those remaining that you shall ask each of the three volunteers to hit a mark or target (the circle) and when you ask each of the volunteers to take his/her turn to hit the mark, everyone will act as follows:
- When the first person tries, the whole group will cheer and encourage,
- When the second person tries, the whole group will yell out and boo,
- When the third person makes his/her attempt, the whole group will ignore them, paying no attention and showing no interest at all.
• Call back the volunteers and show them the circle. Ask them to stand about 3-4 metres away from the circle and give them each a blackboard eraser. Instruct them to take turns hitting the mark (X) inside the circle.
• As they try to hit the mark, give clues to the rest of the group to accept, reject and ignore.
• Bring the group (troop) to discuss what happened, by first asking the three about what they felt.
• What/how did you feel when you were cheered?
• What/how did you feel when you were "booed" and rejected?
• What/how did you feel when you were totally ignored?
• When do feelings of being accepted, rejected and ignored happen in real life situations?
• What do we do in these kinds of situations?